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Apr. 24th, 2006
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We have a thread going at PW about a woman having problems with her husband recently converting to Christianity and wanting to drag her with him. A lot of people are posting their experiences with their SOs, and it seems to me that a lot of Pagans seem to be with Agnostic/Athiests rather than other Pagans or even Christians.
My own fiance,![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
wintersdark, considers himself an atheist. Not in the 'I am sure there are no Gods' sort of a way ... more of a 'I really wish I could believe that there is something else out there, but I just don't think so' sort of a way. He has always been very open with me and my faith ... he is never condiscending and is always sticking up for me when people ask him how his wife can 'believe in something that isn't real' (I laughed when he told me that one - this was coming from a Christian co-worker).
My own experiences makes me wonder if it is just easier for Pagan folks to be with someone who either has no beliefs or has more open beliefs than someone who has a set of very different beliefs. I tend to think on some of the funny conversations that my Heathen brother has had with his Muslim girlfriend ... like her shock and mild disgust at him eating pork.
I can't remember the last time someone came in asking advice on how to deal with their athiest SO ... perhaps it is just a respect thing. If you respect your partner, then you won't belittle their faith ... but is respect enough when your SO honestly believes that you are going to burn for what you do/believe? Are Christian/Pagan relationships just doomed from the beginning? Is success based on whether or not your Christian partner is 'lapsed' in his/her faith?
I realise that in the end it isn't really my concern whether those sorts of relationships can work out ... but I think that just about every Pagan out there has at least one Christian family member (I know I have more than a few). So far, I think that 'keep it to yourself' is about the best policy you can hope for when dealing with harshly devout Christian family members. And I think we have all seen instances when that just wasn't an option.
((yeah, I guess I am thinking of my MIL again))
--Phae
My own fiance,
wintersdark, considers himself an atheist. Not in the 'I am sure there are no Gods' sort of a way ... more of a 'I really wish I could believe that there is something else out there, but I just don't think so' sort of a way. He has always been very open with me and my faith ... he is never condiscending and is always sticking up for me when people ask him how his wife can 'believe in something that isn't real' (I laughed when he told me that one - this was coming from a Christian co-worker).My own experiences makes me wonder if it is just easier for Pagan folks to be with someone who either has no beliefs or has more open beliefs than someone who has a set of very different beliefs. I tend to think on some of the funny conversations that my Heathen brother has had with his Muslim girlfriend ... like her shock and mild disgust at him eating pork.
I can't remember the last time someone came in asking advice on how to deal with their athiest SO ... perhaps it is just a respect thing. If you respect your partner, then you won't belittle their faith ... but is respect enough when your SO honestly believes that you are going to burn for what you do/believe? Are Christian/Pagan relationships just doomed from the beginning? Is success based on whether or not your Christian partner is 'lapsed' in his/her faith?
I realise that in the end it isn't really my concern whether those sorts of relationships can work out ... but I think that just about every Pagan out there has at least one Christian family member (I know I have more than a few). So far, I think that 'keep it to yourself' is about the best policy you can hope for when dealing with harshly devout Christian family members. And I think we have all seen instances when that just wasn't an option.
((yeah, I guess I am thinking of my MIL again))
--Phae
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Those paying attention to me and my little drama called life will remember when my childhood toybox/altar came back to me. Everyone else can read about it here:
http://phae-talon.livejournal.com/108174.html
Well, it happened again ... sort of. I have been needing a butler's tray to finally finish organizing my living room (so that I can set cups of pens, a dish for change and assorted other pocket stuff, on it). With cash in my pocket, I was determined to find one that worked for me today (I hadn't been having the best of luck so far with my search).
We took the trash and recyclables out with us (thus taking us out the back door) when we left for shopping. Everything is normal until I round the corner to walk up the side street around to the front of the building where the car is parked. There are hedges along the sidewalk (that are being brutally slashed back this year), and right there crammed into the corner hedge at about chest height is a black wrot iron butler's tray. It needs to be scrubbed down and it needs a new coat of paint, but other than that, it is exactly what I was looking for.
First words out of my mouth ... "Well, I'll be damned." LOL
--Phae
http://phae-talon.livejournal.com/108174.html
Well, it happened again ... sort of. I have been needing a butler's tray to finally finish organizing my living room (so that I can set cups of pens, a dish for change and assorted other pocket stuff, on it). With cash in my pocket, I was determined to find one that worked for me today (I hadn't been having the best of luck so far with my search).
We took the trash and recyclables out with us (thus taking us out the back door) when we left for shopping. Everything is normal until I round the corner to walk up the side street around to the front of the building where the car is parked. There are hedges along the sidewalk (that are being brutally slashed back this year), and right there crammed into the corner hedge at about chest height is a black wrot iron butler's tray. It needs to be scrubbed down and it needs a new coat of paint, but other than that, it is exactly what I was looking for.
First words out of my mouth ... "Well, I'll be damned." LOL
--Phae
