I have hit a point of both "I am not happy with my shape, because the clothes I like don't fit and clothes that fit aren't available in the styles I like" and "I am not happy with my size, because I get tired too easily and my feet hurt all the time."
I am not worried about cholesterol, blood pressure, sugar/insulin balance, or vitamin deficiencies, although I assume all of those could be improved. I don't have health problems per se related to my weight... but I do have quality-of-life problems.
And dammit, it's *hard* to find a lose-weight-and-size plan that doesn't have a goal of "become a Size 4 Athlete in six months!!!" or isn't related to specific health issues. There isn't a plan for "I want to fit into my renfaire costume comfortably." There's a whole lot of "if you're not planning on becoming a toothpick, you're a failure as a woman" and, on the other side, "how DARE you not CELEBRATE YOUR BEAUTY as you are now!!! No self-shaming!"
Um. I am not ashamed of my size & shape; I'm just not happy with them. I know how I got this way--I got a desk job, and I stopped going dancing once a week and didn't replace it with anything else. I can't just reverse that; my schedule doesn't allow it anymore. Which is not the same as "this is my natural shape." This is not my natural shape; this is my lazy-and-reclusive shape. The fact that there are other people of my height and weight who are comfortable with that, doesn't make my situation less unhealthy.
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rosecarmine
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Date: 2012-07-20 06:26 am (UTC)I am not worried about cholesterol, blood pressure, sugar/insulin balance, or vitamin deficiencies, although I assume all of those could be improved. I don't have health problems per se related to my weight... but I do have quality-of-life problems.
And dammit, it's *hard* to find a lose-weight-and-size plan that doesn't have a goal of "become a Size 4 Athlete in six months!!!" or isn't related to specific health issues. There isn't a plan for "I want to fit into my renfaire costume comfortably." There's a whole lot of "if you're not planning on becoming a toothpick, you're a failure as a woman" and, on the other side, "how DARE you not CELEBRATE YOUR BEAUTY as you are now!!! No self-shaming!"
Um. I am not ashamed of my size & shape; I'm just not happy with them. I know how I got this way--I got a desk job, and I stopped going dancing once a week and didn't replace it with anything else. I can't just reverse that; my schedule doesn't allow it anymore. Which is not the same as "this is my natural shape." This is not my natural shape; this is my lazy-and-reclusive shape. The fact that there are other people of my height and weight who are comfortable with that, doesn't make my situation less unhealthy.